New Chapter In Our Lives = STRESS

So, I am going to be a mom. To a 10 year old little girl. My hubby's daughter is coming to live with us for a while. Under any "normal" circumstances this would be a little stressful, right? Well......my circumstances can never seem to be normal. Daughter has been home schooled her entire life, if you even could call it that. She is super far behind. She barely reads, can not tell time, doesn't spell, or write well, not even the alphabet. Hubby has not been the best father, he was refused visitation for several years, because of multiple reasons. His drinking, broken promises, mom was mad she lost him.....but regardless, he has been making an attempt now for the past year to be a part of her life. We had discussed taking her to court for custody, because of the education thing for the most part. But, had decided against it, for the fact that we didn't want her to resent us for taking her away from mom. The first day of her last visit over here in February she had asked hubby if she could live with him. Maybe we should have pushed to get more out of her, as to why she wanted to, what was going on. Because Sunday evening mom calls and tells hubby she is done dealing with her and at her whits end. Daughter asked again on the phone if she could come live with dad, of coarse he said yes. Mom wanted to know when dad could come and pick her up. We had decided we would meet this coming weekend half way. Well...so then our stress starts. What are we doing to do with her, during the day? She doesn't have school records. How will we afford to send her to daycare...etc. etc. So I made a call to the School to get some info. Of coarse the first step is to have her enrolled. She tells me where to go and what I'll need. Immunization records and Birth Certificate. So I tell hubby he needs to ask for the immunization records. Mom says she doesn't have any. Now, I don't know if that means she doesn't have a copy of the records or she has never been immunized. Stress level up a notch. Where do we begin now? I text messaged hubby to request mom put something in writing and they get it notarized giving dad temporary custody. I didn't want mom doing something off the wall, like charging dad with kidnapping (yes, I do believe she's that vindictive and unstable to be quite honest) Mom, tried to pull this business of a month with dad a month back with her. He told her that would not work. That it will take at least that long just for everyone to get adjusted. I am very confident right now that once we get her tested and in a stable environment and learning institution that she will catch up in no time. So I don't want mom to just be able to say, okay I had my break, send her back now. We know that for many reasons she would be better if she were with us. Especially for an education. I don't understand how someone could be okay with not educating their child. That is the childs future you are messing with. But, of coarse this woman still lives with her own mom. So, I can't say that I am that suprised, but I am.

So, what do we do now? What if mom never gives us any records? What if we get her immunized and she has already been, will it hurt her? Please if you have ANY ideas, questions, comments, or prayers....please send them my way. I am going to need them.